It lurks through the night.
Keeps you stiff necked to your bed.
Sweating in fear, you pray.
“God hear my prayer for I am scared.”
The curtains rustle and blow.
The winds are screaming to come in through the window pane.
“What could the winds want,” you wonder.
You sit trembling in the dark.
Your forehead beating with sweat, your entire body shaking, your entire body cold.
The cold of a dead ghost, stroking the forearm of the trembling foe.
The feeling of the stroke are, are one may call icy.
The icy ping of many frozen spider legs crawling across your forearm.
Waking up sweating. Feeling around for what you thought was a nightmare.
The curtains are still blowing, the wind still howling, but the sun is shinning.
The day can now go on.
Darkness is found everywhere, it is not just found at night. That is why we should not judge the night by it’s darkness.-CD
In our society women are encouraged to love who they are regardless of their size, looks, and status. The media tells women that they are beautiful the way they are. Our society helps cope with their low self-esteem and helps them to appreciate themselves as a person. They are encouraged to speak out about their feelings and engage in whatever men can do. These are all good things and I believe it is one of the positive aspects of our society. However, men have just as much self-esteem issues as women do and society merely just looks past it.
The stereotypical image of the “perfect man” is similar to the picture below.
A physiologist named Doctor Raymond Lemberg researched upon this topic and reported that only at the most 2% of all men have what society calls “the perfect body.”(https://goo.gl/umOItj) If we are setting this standard for all young men in America and only at the most 2% of Americans have this body image, then what are we saying to all of the young men of America?
Body image issues are found within men as well as women. This causes a low self-esteem and depression. Depending on a man’s body type, it will make it more difficult for some men to maintain the stereotypical “perfect body.” Also some men can physically not maintain or even achieve this “perfect body” due to medical reasons or anything other related issues. It is not healthy for everyone to maintain this image.
Another thing that is looked past on the topic upon men are their feelings. Women are encouraged to openly express their feelings. However, society tells men that to be a man, they need to hide their feelings and not allow them to appear. This can cause serious damage toward the self-esteem of the man because he may think that he is not “manly enough to cope with his own feelings. This can also cause many psychological problems and is overall not healthy for him.
Society has created this mold for all men to follow, which is not a good one. Every man is unique and different from each other. Our society needs to be more open and concern about the self-esteem and image of our young men. It is a topic that is merely not promoted enough and it is frowned upon by society to even bring it up.